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According to Nicholas Sparks, “Love is like the wind, you can’t see it but you can feel it.” This quote has seen reoccurrences each year during Valentines Day. People who are in love make an effort to have time with their loved ones. Love is probably in the air and you can feel it.
However, if there are people like Nicholas Sparks, there are also people like Jon Stewart who states that Valentines Day is “…a manufactured day that really doesn’t mean anything.”
7 Reasons Why People Hate Valentines Day
Valentines Day is one of the most loved occasions in the world, but it is also one of the most hated occasion. These are the 7 most common reasons why a lot of people also hates the day of hearts.
1. Spending (and expecting) too much on a date
Valentines Day is almost synonymous to “chocolate presents” because everyone (even singles) are expected to give chocolates. Flowers, chocolates, and couple shirt demand will be skyrocketing in this day, and with a huge markup on that. People will also expect their partners to do something very special (like baking cookies, or taking them to movies). There are better ways to express love, and buying overpriced sweet products might not be one of those.
2. Outcast treatment for those who won’t participate
Those who don’t have a partner will find themselves being looked upon by a lot of people, especially during lunch. What is wrong with eating alone during Valentine’s day? All in all, Valentine’s day is not everyone’s favorite occasion because of reasons such as the unnecessary attention that the occasion gets.
3. Public places are jam-packed
This might be the very worst reason why a lot of people (single or in a relationship) hates Valentine’s Day. Restaurants are full because of reservations, so you need to queue up to have a meal. There are more people than usual in the streets and most of them are walking slowly and taking their time. Public utility transportations are full of couples that occupy the chairs, leaving singles standing. And last but not least, it is harder to navigate (in some places) because of the sudden influx of people going somewhere.
4. Unnecessary spending of money
Single? You still need to buy chocolates because your co-workers will expect to receive something (not always, but most of them would, anyway). In fact, according to Investopedia, chocolate price is always fluctuating, and consumers are not really aware of the price hike. This might be just a one-year expense, but it is still an unnecessary expense, and frugal people wouldn’t be happy with it.
5. Eating chocolates
The previous item leads us to another problem that a lot of people actually have: eating chocolates. Valentine’s Day is one of those excuses where you can eat chocolates all day and no one will bathe an eye. Although everyone can always say no, there is a lot of overwhelming pressure to eat chocolate for no apparent reason. This will be problematic for people who have specific dietary or medical conditions such as Diabetes. Who could actually stand Love Hearts chocolates?
6. The people in a relationship
This item doesn’t mean that all people in a relationship are problematic during the valentines day. However, there are people who have been overdoing expectations. There are expectations that you will do something special for your partner because of the reason that its Valentine’s Day. In addition, if it’s not expensive, the gift might not be appreciated. Valentine’s Day has seen romantic dinners, as well as romantic dinners ruined because someone forgot to compliment a dress.
7. The people without significant others
More than often, there are also singles who brings negativity to people who are genuinely celebrating the occasion. Most of the negativities are from social media, where a lot of toxicity actually happens during Valentine’s day. This toxicity doesn’t occur often when Valentine’s is not around.
Free Things To Do On Valentines Day
There is a world of free activities out there. That’s why I decided to write 100 Free And Frugal Things To Do On Valentine’s Day, check out our complete list!
1. Stargazing / Sunset watching
One of the things you can do with your loved ones is to watch nature and be mesmerized by its beauty. Experiencing nature is free, and often times, this is all that you need to have a romantic night. Enjoying companionship with simplicity are the true joys of life.
2. Give a massage
Another free activity is to give each other a free massage after a long day at work. You don’t have to be an expert in massages, just making your other person feel special is enough for them to appreciate you.
3. Get some rest
Even if it is not Valentine’s Day, make sure that both you and your partner are getting enough rest. Even sleeping like a log is a great way to spend Valentine’s Day together. Not to mention that sleeping is free.
4. Cook your own dinner
If the love bug ignites your romantic tendencies, you can still have your special dinner at home. Preparing your own food is cheaper, and in addition, you don’t even have to make additional spendings. Just make sure to enjoy your cooking time together.
5. Spend some quality time together
Money is not necessary to let someone know how you appreciate their presence in your life. The fact that you chose to spend Valentine’s Day with him or her should be enough. After all, the best experiences in life don’t always involve money.
How We Celebrated Our Valentine Day
Not celebrating valentine day does not make me love my husband any less. There is no correlation between love and a specific, meaningless date.
Before I came into the relationship with my husband, I was a big o’ bag of sad and hubby picked me up off the cement sidewalk like an abandoned stray.
They are hands down the best years of my life thus far. No comparison.
My eyes glaze over at wedding and lovey-dovey things but I’m not a weirdo. I do like to look at other people’s joy and their committed love, a lot, but I just don’t understand why it’s worth the trouble for us personally. It’s just not for us.
I believe little gestures, done right, can mean a ton. This is how we spent our 3rd Valentine’s Day together.
Cooked a Great Meal at Home – $27.84
Did Chores for Him – $0
We don’t separate out our chores. It’s really “which one of us has the time/energy to take this one now, and I’ll do the next one” switch-a-roo.
After 6 months of tracking our fights, I know our system could be more efficient but it works for now. I took the initiative and scheduled a few meetings with contractors without him. I washed and folded the laundry. Then I washed the dogs, took out the garbage bins and answered the messages he got on his LinkedIn account. I’m sometimes his secretary 🙂
Left Love Notes – $0
Well — I was supposed to write a bunch of sweet things on napkins and hide them in his pockets before he left for work…but we both overslept and I forgot. Then I remembered my conversation with my friend a few days ago where I said some very nice things about my husband, being married and loving him with all my…anyways, sap sap sappy sap stuff.
I talk to her on a mobile app called WeChat using the voice recording feature so all our audio conversations were saved. I forwarded my sap sap sappy sap recordings to my husband from the chat with my friend while hubby was at work instead of physical notes.
He was very flattered, so mission accomplished.
A Heartfelt Talk – $0
My husband and I married young. I was 23/24 when I married him and there was a lot of growing up I needed to do. Both of us needed to, but more so me.
As a person who got hitched at a young age, relationships are harder. It’s not about the chemistry between two people but more like you’re still in mid-development as a human being so chemistry can’t fix everything.
You need dedication too.
We just talked about the 3 years we’ve been together. I reflected on my many, many mistakes in life since we were on the topic of marriage. I’m far from the best wife but the comfort I get is trying to get better at being with him than the day before.
DIY Valentine Card – $0
He threw me a curveball. My husband made me a Valentine card from scratch randomly this year, on company time, while he was at work.
“Wait, how did you get material for this? Did you STEAL this? What??? Like…they have a craft table?”
“Actually yeah, craft table at work was out all week – I just didn’t see it.”
“There IS a craft table?!?”
“There’s heart stickers, craft scissors, and doilies…”
[Thinks] Wow he works in an adult kindergarten. That explains quite a lot.
Someone printed Valentine themed cartoons/memes and put it out on the crafts table for everybody. He saw this Seattle soda tax joke and thought of me so he took his lunch break to make it.
Bragged About Him to Everybody Reading This Article – Priceless!
That was #20 on the free things to do list. Check, check, triple check!
I guess what I’m trying to say is…give meaning to any day by living it with purpose and make your own rules on how to celebrate it. Happiness will follow.